Yesterday was a whirlwind day for me. My son was in an accident that demolished his car. He was on his way to school when his car was hit by a truck which had run a red light.
I got to the scene to see the carcass of what was his car, the engine exposed, standing in the middle of the road, surrounded by cops, flashing lights, and orange cones. He was already in the ambulance off on the side.
Although I had spoken to him on the phone after the accident, and knew he was not badly hurt, the scene rocked my world.
I came face to face with a "too close for comfort" almost reality. What if he had been badly hurt or killed? There was nothing that I could have done to protect him today, and there is nothing I could do to ensure he will be safe in the future.
All of the related emotions swarmed me. Fear and helplessness took a momentary hold. Grief, for something that did not even happen, descended. I could have lost my precious boy.
Eventually, grief gave way to gratitude. I was grateful that he was safe. That nightmare was not mine today. I sat next to him in the ambulance, while they checked his vitals. He was shaken, and he was whole and he was well.
It is so easy to focus on the moments that break our hearts, and bring us face to face with our worst fears. It would be so easy to begin to try to control the uncontrollable. This approach is the anthesis of living, and would steal the joy of being alive.
In my grateful state I "saw" a bigger picture. I saw that goodness and kindness show up first. The angels, perfect strangers, who stopped their cars and ran to help and comfort him. The ones who chose to stay to make statements to the police, when they could have driven off to their day.
I "saw" the police officers, and the EMS team, soften and empathize with me. They see this (and worse) everyday, but in the moment - I had their undivided attention, care and concern.
I felt deep gratitude for "my people", the ones I called at the time when I felt most vulnerable and scared, as my mind played out the alternate, horror scenario, The ones who make me feel safe, and accept my fragile state and my "fall apart". I was not alone.
I was grateful that tomorrow, I would go back to life as usual, with my precious son.
On the transition from caterpillar to butterfly - there is a short period of unsteadiness and vulnerability. This is where you take a breath and steady yourself and get used to your new form. It will feel overwhelming and uncomfortable," this is a part of the process of transition - the pause before you are able to spread your beautiful new wings.
- Sharon MacGregor
Transitions.. that time in between moving from where you were, to where you want to be... can be "overwhelming and uncomfortable" and brings up fears of every kind. It can also be accompanied by moments of "glorifying" the past, where you run through the highlight reel of what you are leaving behind. Because you have no highlights of the future, you have nothing to build confidence in what is yet to come.
What do you do? How do you continue to move forward?
TRUST. Trust in yourself and your ability to persevere. Trust in your ability to take care of yourself and your responsibilities. Trust in your vision for your future. Coming back to how you want to feel (your CDFs), trust that these are relevant.
This will require some honesty about what was not working before -- so you can begin to visualize the UPGRADED view of your future. By doing this, you change your relationship to the past, and you will give yourself something concrete to focus on in the future.
#trustlife This will require some faith that life is working for you. No matter how uncomfortable it is right now, looking back at your life, you will see where things worked out in some magical ways, in ways you could not have even imagined, much less create.
When the butterfly emerges from the cocoon - life is completely different, everything is NEW -- even how she gets around is different. She could cling to her branch, keep her new wings closed, just craving the past... but what a waste that would be.
She simply needs to take a breath, accept that she is new, and life is new, and then slowly orient herself, and start looking at her new options. She can spread her wings and trust that she is ready for what is to come.
If you are also in this that pause in transition, it will be helpful to #knowyour5...
What 5 things worked out in the past in a magical way (without your input)?
What 5 things that were not working in your recent past?
What 5 things you will choose to focus on in this new leg of the journey?
As always -- build a vision board -- to help keep your focus on what you want, and ignite your CDFs.
Are you ready to take flight?
#connection #free #magic #wild #aligned
#trustlife #knowyour5 #goddessing
Sharon MacGregor is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, Yoga Instructor and licensed Desire Map facilitator. Her own success combating depression, and the symptoms of perimenopause with yoga and nutrition has led a realization that we can make our lives into whatever we want, whenever we want. Her programs are designed to educate women of the myriad of ways build self-confidence and embrace life after 40 with optimism. Her retreats and workshops combine yoga+nutrition+coaching. You can join the conversation on her private Facebook group Upgrade Your Life. You can find out about working with her at www.sharonmacgregor.com.